When it comes to dealing with relationship breaks ups, people usually choose between the fight or flight approach. Some would face the situation head on, while others would rather go into a stage of denial. No matter what your method is of forgetting someone who used to love you, the matter at hand is still clear---the relationship is over and moving on is your best option.

That may sound bleak and harsh, but believe me, when it comes to moving on, it is way better to face the reality than sugarcoat the situation. If you are still reeling from a recent break, here are some tips that would do you good.

1.    Get a life. Although your boyfriend or your girlfriend had a change of heart about the future (or none of which) of your relationship, it doesn’t mean that your world has to stop revolving. Instead of holing up in your room, feeling depressed and worthless, go out and have a good time. Go shopping with your friends or go on a trip. Take this opportunity to do the things you weren’t able to do when you were still in a relationship.
2.    Keep yourself busy. Get yourself involved in worthwhile activities to improve yourself. It might be the end of a relationship with someone really important to you, but that doesn’t mean that you should stagnate yourself. To prevent yourself from brooding over the painful break up, immerse yourself in uplifting and inspirational activities like strengthening relationships with families and friends, or making yourself more attractive.
3.    Avoid initiating contact with your ex. They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but when it comes to getting over an ex, absence actually makes the heart forget.
4.    Healing a broken heart takes time, so don’t rush getting into the dating circuit just to forget an ex. Dating another person just to forget an ex will backfire sooner or later, and will only hurt more people. Moreover, you are emotionally vulnerable at this period, so there could be people out there who would take advantage of you.
5.    Accept the fact that you are hurting. It is okay to cry over a relationship that has just ended. That person who left you might have been part of your world, but remember that you still have a life to live. Always remember that in time, you will find someone new whom you will love and who will love you.

Healing a broken heart takes time. Love loving, moving on is a choice. You can only start anew once you’ve made the decision to move on.