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Love vs Infatuation

Tuesday, November 17th, 2009

Like and love are two very different feelings but most of the time a lot of people tend to mix up these feelings and end up getting hurt because what they thought the other person felt for them was love, was just infatuation. Getting to know the difference between these two feelings may save you from getting hurt or give you a shot to be in a good relationship with your soon to be partner. Though there are people who would just go all the way not caring whether they would get hurt or not, they would just want to gamble with fate and see if any random encounters would end up to be their long time partner.

The most common misinterpretation of love and infatuation is usually on the getting-to-know-each-other phase between two people. One may think that the other person is into him/her and would take chances by leaving signs that may or may not be interpreted in the same way. People are usually confused on whether someone is trying to be nice and someone is already flirting, with this misunderstanding, it would soon lead to one person walking straight into getting hurt in the long run. It’s like making a person walk around in a room blindfolded with some soothing music playing in the background without him/her knowing that the room is filled with knives and other harmful objects, even though you are sure that you’re safe in that room, sooner or later you would start stepping on some knives and bumping into those harmful objects. In other words, even if you think you you’re on the right track, with all the signs around you, there is still a chance that you have read those signs in a wrong way and you are bound to get hurt because of that misinterpretation.

Love on the other hand, may be the most obvious feeling one can recognize but there are still some people who are very hesitant in expressing these feelings. Then comes the “how do I really feel about this person” phase, this is usually experienced by people who are very fragile when it comes to a relationship. These people are afraid to take risks with the fear of getting badly hurt in the end. They look for opportunities that would surely grant an easy way into a relationship, this method may be the easiest, but in the long run this would lead to the most hurt that anyone could receive. Love and infatuation are feelings that can both be expressed. It all depends on the degree of expression that leads the receiving end in the most confusing role. One should be careful in expressing their feelings for another person, they really wouldn’t know whether it’s love or infatuation once they realize this relationship may or may not be the relationship they have been searching for in the first place, as a result, both individuals tend to hurt each other without their knowledge due to lack of familiarity with their partners.

Things That Keep Love and Romance in a Relationship

Friday, November 6th, 2009

Love and romance are hard to keep in a relationship especially over long periods of times. Here are a few ideas to help you in keeping love and romance in your relationship.

Send a card or a gift even if there are no occasions

Sending a person a card for no other reason than just being thankful for them being there is a nice way of letting people know that they are special to you. You can give anything, it does not need to be grandiose or poetic. It just needs to be sincere and heart felt.

Cook the food that they want eat
A romantic dinner can be made even more romantic when the dinner is cooked by the person that you love. The effort in creating the dish that the person likes will not only make the night special but it will ultimately make the food a lot more tastier.

Let them know that their opinion matters
Ask them how they feel on different things. Making a person feel that his or her opinion matters to you is a sign that they are important in your life. They will take it as a sign of you involving them in your decision making process.

Play games together
Go out on a bowling night or a night of shooting pool. Playing games and enjoying each others competitive spirit is a nice way of bonding with each other. Of course, a person may win or lose but the egos should not be bruised during these times. Instead, bonding and camaraderie should be at the forefront.

Teach them something you know and let him or her teach you what they know
If you know how to play an instrument then you may want to share that knowledge with the person that you are with. You are not only sharing your talents with him or her but you are also sharing a part of your self to them. Also, this goes both ways if there is something he or she knows, let them share that talent with you. Not only will this be a great bonding moment but this will also ass to your self improvement.

Share your future plans
This will be a lot more effective if your future plan involves him or her with you. This will not only make things a lot better but it will also make the other person feel that what you have will e maintained in the long term. It will also let them have insight on the way that you look at things in the present as well as your perspective for the future.

Tell them that you care
Sometimes, the best way to let people know that you care is to tell them that you care. The simplest and most direct way to let them know how you feel is by simply letting them know how you feel. Simple. Direct. Effective.

Things That You Can Do to Spark Your Relationship

Thursday, October 15th, 2009

You know how difficult it is to show people that you love them? Here are some of the things that you can do to make people feel that they are important to you.

Give them a hug

Giving a hug to someone important to you gives off a sense of belonging and fondness. It also makes them feel that they are important to you and that you trust them by allowing them inside your personal space.

Try giving out love notes

With the advent of text messaging an email, love notes have become outmoded ways in which you can express that way that you feel. And because it is a seldom used method of conveying your love, it will be very much appreciated by the person that you will be giving it to you.

Call even if you have nothing to say

Calling even if there is nothing to talk about indicates that you just want to hear the person’s voice. It says to a person that you miss them and that it is enough that you hear their voice.

Give your significant other a foot rub

A foot rub after a busy day can be heaven for many people. Enough said.

Jokes are not over rated

Fewer and fewer people are telling jokes to their significant other. You often see people that are too afraid to kid around and joke with the person that they love. However, a well placed joke will definitely make the bond between you two special.

Walk with them

Going out for a walk is another thing that you can do if you want to be romantic. If you think that there is nothing romantic about walking then the problem is with you and you are doing something wrong. There is nothing more romantic than walking under the stars in a cool night while chatting about life. Choose a nice location that you are familiar with so that you can take your date to different places that you are comfortable with.

Flowers never go out of style

Flowers and not diamonds are a girl’s best friend. Diamonds have greater value because they are more expensive. But if you do not have the money to burn, you should try out and give out flowers instead. The results will be the same. Flowers are a sure fure way of making a person feel special.

Compliments are a must

It is not how many compliments that you give your partner but how many honest compliments you can give out. Be sincere with your compliments and the person will feel that you are noticing things that are good about him or her.

Go shopping with them

Men hate shopping so much and women love it so much. By agreeing to go out and shop with her, you are doing something that you hate in order for her to do something that she enjoys. This will be viewed as a sacrifice on your part and will make the other person feel special.

Tips on Love That You Never Would Have Thought

Friday, October 2nd, 2009

Love is a complicated thing and you know fully well that love is not an exact science with formulas to follow and things that you should avoid. There is no 100 percent guarantee that a love tip is going to work. Here are some practical tips on love and what you can do on your relationship.

Give but also learn to receive

All those idealists will tell you that love is all about giving. They will continue to tell you that it is not about how much you receive from your partner but how much you are willing to give. This is not the case. You should give but you should also receive. It is not love when all you do is give, give and give. You also need to feel appreciated and that you need to create a sense of balance in your relationship.

Do not be easy on those who trespass against you

When you love somebody you do not hurt them. And the same should be expected from the one that loves you. If someone loves you then he or she should not hurt you. If he or she does, do not easily forgive. I am not saying that you should keep grudges nor am I suggesting that you should go out and get your revenge. Rather, you need to let that person know that it is not easy to forgive and that it hurts you so much. By letting him or her know that you are hurt, he or she will think twice of doing the same thing again.

Do not say that you love the person that you love

This may come as a surprise to many but you do not need to tell the person that you love that you love him or her all the time. What you need to do is that you should let them feel is that you love them each and every time. Love is easier said than done and by making them feel that they are loved, you do not need to say it plenty of times because they already feel it.

Try and separate your self from each other

Do not be with your loved one all the time. If you are with him or her all the time, you will not know the feeling of how it is to be apart from each other. Also, by being apart from each other, you will be more appreciative of the time that you are together. There are a lot of things that you can do when you are apart and you should never needlessly sacrifice anything just to be with your loved one.

Do not love everybody

Lastly, as you can not please every body, you do not need to love everybody. There are things that you try in order to please people but their opinion of you will always vary no matter what you do. That is why you need to forget it and not try to love everybody. Just love a select few.