The initial few seconds of a first date can set the tone for a whole relationship, and there’s no doubt that the way you look will play a part in that first impression. You might think your witty repartee should be able to make you shine all on its own, but studies have shown that appearance is, inevitably, a huge factor in the way we judge a person, however much we might deny it.
People generally judge other people on what might seem to be far more superficial level, assessing a new person 70% by how they look, 20% on how they sound and only 10% on what they say, and dating is no exception. Here are the top dos and don’ts for getting your clothes just right on a first date.
DO be yourself
It’s always fun to get dressed up for an event like a first date, but overdo it and you won’t feel like yourself. The most important thing when dating is to be happy and relaxed and to convey your own wonderful character to the person you are dating you wear something you’re not comfortable in then, no matter how fashionable it is, the effect will only be to make you feel uncomfortable. Most men say they prefer a woman to dress attractively but casually on a first date.
DON’T wear new shoes
While it’s great to dazzle the person you are dating with a stunning pair of shiny high heels, those shoes will be feeling a lot less sexy when you limp, hunched and grimacing, to the ladies’ room. New shoes are almost always painful the first time you wear them (particularly the pretty ones!), so bear this in mind when preparing for a first date and try to wear in your new shoes first, or wear a pair you know you can rely on.
DO reveal just enough
There is a delicate balance to be struck when it comes to how much your clothes should reveal on a first date. Too much flesh on show isn’t really appropriate for someone you have just started dating, and can give the wrong impression to a man. While for some men, a girl who turns up in a micro-mini will be their dream dating partner, these men probably won’t be looking for a long-term relationship. On the other hand, it can be good to reveal a certain amount. A classic outfit which shows the shape of your body without clinging too tightly, and reveals hints of flesh rather than acres, will give the impression you have made the effort to look good for your date, which is always appreciated.
DON’T wear too much make-up
While a slick of natural-looking make-up can enhance a woman’s looks, too much can be a big turn-off. This is because most men will want to see the ‘real you’ and not a mask, and too much make-up can give the impression that you are hiding and unhappy to show your real self. Overdoing the fake tan or perfume can also be off-putting to the person you’re dating, it’s usually best to keep your look fairly natural.
DO – the most important rule of all for dating...
Always wear a smile!