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How to Get The Guy You Want
Every woman has had dates where she regretted going out with the guy after the first five minutes. Sometimes, dates like that happen one after the other and it seems impossible to find a good guy. There are also women who just settle for a guy who is kind of like the guy they really want but isn’t their dream guy. This way, they don’t have to date anymore but they usually don’t wind up happy either.
The very first thing you need to do is figure out what the guy you want is like. Is he funny? Smart? Romantic? Then see if you can focus more on guys like that. Now, this doesn’t mean that you should write off other guys. You may think you like a guy who is smart but when you start dating the really smart guys, you may find that you feel inferior. In cases like that, you need to keep your options open and perhaps reevaluate what you consider the perfect guy. Many times, the best man for you is going to be the guy you never considered before.
If you can’t stand a man that refuses to do basic hygiene, that won’t get off his cell phone or that has never read a book – then don’t date them. Some things you just can’t compromise on but you should remember that men (like women) don’t really change. Don’t marry a lazy guy expecting to turn him into someone who’ll clean, cook and do laundry. It won’t happen. Look for a guy who is willing to meet you halfway and who doesn’t want you to look after him.
To get a guy that you would want, you need to respect yourself. If you have no respect for yourself, you’ll never attract a man who respects you. This will help you weed out the bad apples in dating as well. Be confident and if you expect your man to call you when he gets to his business meeting 12 hours away, let him know that. It shows you care and it’s not asking too much. Don’t let anyone walk on you. Take care of yourself – eat right, exercise and dress well. You don’t have to be fancy or perfect but if you do try most of the time to take care of yourself, guys who take care of themselves and who respect that in a woman will come around more. This way, you can draw someone to you that is more like you and someone who you will want.
